heartbreaks are sure painful, it could be the most painful experience one could face.
but maybe less than watching someone u love passed away.
but still, the pain is huge. in a bad bad way.
it could make you suffer so much
it takes up all your energy, hindering u to be a zombie and whatnots
u wish that you could just lay still on the bed, pretended that it did not happened
that things are just fine, that you wish you still have that one person that you loved.
sometimes we think that we did not have the strength to go on
that sometimes we often felt that the world has ended. collapsed. broken to pieces
that life has no meaning without that person.
'being brokenhearted is like having broken ribs. on the outside it looks like nothing's wrong, but every breath hurts.' [quoted from the book]
well here's something for all of us.
maybe it could help. maybe it's just words
but nonetheless, i find it amazingly true. but then everything is easier said than done, right?
#1 . put down the phone.you seriously have to put down the phone, before u regretted the moment you said silly things to your ex-file. no, really. don't make that call. because why? because you're a great girl, you're someone great, and you dont have to look for that 2nd chance with someone who has proven himself unworthy of your greatness. (your greatness ok, not HIS greatness)
#2. you're gonna get through this! as shitty as u may feel right now, let us just believe that there's a silver lining behind each grey cloud. it sounds cliche, and yeah, those are just comforting words, but hey! comforting words are very helpful to get us through this., did i say us? hell yeah, us as it is :D
#3. often we heard the speech of : "it's not you, it's me speech"
belive me, those words are none better that i dont like you anymore. it's just the polite way of breaking off things. they said it to make us believe that despite it all, they are a bunch of gentle and humble man. NOTTT! pfft. (sape suroh rasa inferior complex sangat. not my loss. urgh)
#4. you are allowed to cry. to feel the pain. eventhough it hurts, with time the pain will eventually subside. and when it all eased up, you are allowed to feel proud, for not giving up on the 1st instance. believe me on this. ( but the pain sucks. big time.) but don't let the pain of a hearbreak made your life fall. your life is too precious to let this one fellow to break everything that you have
#5. when you and your ex-file get into the relationship, you were the 2 brand-new sports cars driving side by side. you were sleek, desirable, sexy and confident, and the ride was exhilarating. after a while, you zigged, and then he zagged, you weren't driving the same speed anymore, one of you was always trying to catch up, and eventually you crashed, and totaled the cars. when the insurance paid out, one of you decided to buy a new car instead of fixing the totaled one. [one of you believe that the relationship is no longer worth fixing, and who wants a relationship that despite attempted repairs, always stalls when you try to shift gears?? definitely not you, and not me either!]
#6. it's hard to not rack your brain, searching for reasons why the two of you couldnt make it work, but sometimes the only real answer is the simplest one ; people come together and move apart. a lot of the pain that you (or we) experienced now is fear of the things being different, fear of never finding that someone, fear of being alone and a whole lot of other fears. so for now, lets take a deep breath, and realize that this will hurt for a while. only for a while, as there is no quick remedy of a tremendous fall, as much as you tried to fake it
#7. there are NO new messages! so you can stop checking, looking and worrying sick that maybe, just maybe, that your phone is not working. or there is no network. he didnt text you. did not call you. so we might as well take it all in, and stop every urges to text. even if all you wanted to do is saying hi. that's a big NO! because he made it clear that he didn't want to hear from you, even if you think he does, well you're probably wrong! if he wanted to talk to you, to check on you, to reconcile with you, he would. if he had the courage to break it off, he also has the ability to use the phone and dial your number. all the broken fingers in the world won't keep someone who's truly determined from calling, so any excuse you can think of is just an excuse!
( gee, then you must have broken all your bones too!. boooo)
#8. he just broke up with you, so he's not that great of a person, if you come to think of it. or you broke off with him, so he can't be that great or else you would still be together. so if you often have that 2nd thought whether you just blow it off big time with the person of your dream, do a reality check, that it's done. and what-ifs thinking are not valid.
#9. get rid of his stuffs or the things that reminded you of him.
#10. love yourself first. pamper yourself with all the pricey thingy that you have been eyeing for quite some time already. why not? for this instance, you need it. love yourself to the max, care for your life, and the group of people in it. spend time with them. with friends. families. because the next relationship you're in, might be the one that lasts forever, (and when it comes, you wont have time to be doing all the things on your own anymore) so might as well, enjoy this moment.. and chill!! :)
ps : those are the summaries or main points that i've learnt from that book. so if you wanna read some more, please buy it ok?? it will be good for you :)
pps : screw youuu! i may forgive, but definitely will never forget of what you did. or what you didn't do. or apa-apa je la.
ppps : and remember, it is called a BREAKUP, because it definitely is BROKEN!
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